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staying in Israel and Eva moving to Indiana with her husband. At this time, the sisters started a foundation to educate the world about Auschwitz and about the power of forgiveness. This foundation is called CANDLES, an acronym for Children of Auschwitz Nazi Deadly Lab Experiments Survivors, and was begun to help surviving twins all over the world cope with the many issues they were left with after liberation. She told us that special morning in Krakow, “Hatred is like a poison and can kill you. To save yourself, you must forgive. Write a letter. Say whatever it is that you want to say to whoever it is that you have a hatred for, good things and bad things. Say I forgive you. Then put the letter in your drawer. Don’t mail it. Just leave it in your drawer. That act of forgiveness will heal your soul and set you free.” She has spent her life giving talks to many, many people, especially young people, and has travelled back to Auschwitz each year giving lectures there as well. She always tells young people that they should give their parents an extra hug and kiss for those children, like herself, who had or have no parents. We couldn’t believe how lucky we were to have had this chance encounter with such an amazing person, who had suff ered so much as a young child and still could urge forgiveness! Later that day, we left our hotel and travelled to Venice, still marvelling at our experience and wanting to tell others about it. The next day after a full day of being tourists, we were having dinner at an outdoor café and started telling a British couple at the next table about meeting Eva. Three ladies at the next table overheard us and said how fascinated they were by our story. One of the ladies said, “We just looked her up on our phones. Do you realize she died today?” My husband and I were stunned! We had just talked with Eva the day before and had come away from our meeting enthralled with her and her story. Were we now the bearers of the last words spoken by a remarkable woman who suff ered so much as a child and had spent her life travelling the world preaching forgiveness? Her words that morning made me realize that if she could forgive the person who was the perpetrator of those concentration camp horrors and was responsible for her suff ering, then I could forgive anyone! I also learned that whatever forgiveness I am willing to give will save me from the poison of hate. I hope that I can spread her message, and practice what she said. After emailing Linda, Eva’s nurse, and sending our condolences, Linda thanked us for being the audience for Eva the day before in Krakow when she wasn’t feeling very well. She also assured us that Eva died a peaceful death surrounded by her family, both immediate and the family that travelled with her spreading the CANDLES message. We feel so blessed that we were part of her last day and look forward to being witnesses to her words of love and forgiveness for those we meet each day . ● Sandy Fildes and her husband Leo Bruseker enjoy travelling in their retirement and often talk to strangers. Eva’s obituary appeared in The New York Times in July 2019: www.nytimes. com/2019/07/07/ obituaries/eva-kor- dead.html. news&views WINTER 2019 | 21