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Spirituality and Wellness Peggy McDonagh Keep on Keeping on With Perseverance Actress and comedian Goldie Hawn said: The lotus is the most beautiful flower, whose petals open one by one. But it will only grow in the mud. In order to grow and gain wisdom, first you must have the mud — the obstacles of life and its suffering.... The mud speaks of the common ground that humans share, no matter what our stations in life.... Whether we have it all or we have nothing, we are all faced with the same obstacles: sadness, loss, illness, dying and death. If we are to strive as human beings to gain more wisdom, more kindness and more compassion, we must have the perseverance to grow as a lotus and open each petal one by one. The world is filled with people who, like each one of us, experience the same obstacles of depression, pain, grief, loss, illness, difficult relationships, job loss—the same everything—but who never give up. Worldwide, people tackle any number of larger challenges such as famine, flood, hunger, homelessness, hurricanes, tornados, war, wildfires — the list is endless. Perseverance when faced with life’s difficult challenges is the day-by-day decision not to give up. Every day people make decisions not to give in or lose heart despite feeling lost, overwhelmed, depressed, betrayed and exhausted. I suspect that we all know of such people, and perhaps we ourselves have persevered through the inevitable complications of life. Perseverance is a choice of how to respond to life’s situations, and it eventually enables us to experience the satisfaction of overcoming, healing, and surviving. In his book Saying YES to Life, Ezra Bayda writes, “Your difficulties are not obstacles on the spiritual path, they are the path.” Problems and trials are a part of life and can easily entrap us in misery, disillusionment, despair, and 14 | arta.net discontentment. Perseverance enables us to avoid the anger, bitterness, and frustration that can result when we get mired down in misery and disillusionment. It is an inner strength that keeps us blossoming in the mud of life and helps us to face the vicissitudes of life with courage. Author and spiritual director Margaret Wheatley wrote a small book entitled Perseverance designed to be carried around and quickly consulted whenever situations, circumstances, or emotions threaten a person’s capacity to keep going. Wheatley wrote the book after receiving a text from a friend with whom she worked with in post-Katrina New Orleans as hurricanes continued to batter that region. One morning, during yet another heartbreaking, frustrating meeting, her friend sent her this message: “Every day I have to make a choice not to give up.” Wheatley’s concern for people’s spiritual well-being inspires her to teach about perseverance. In her description of her book, she writes: