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he decided to sell and move elsewhere. He asked a realtor to write an ad. The ad said: If you have ever had the urge to farm but just have not found the right place that suits your needs, here is a farm for you. Situated in a great location with an immaculately maintained house, this farm has sturdy barns, lush pasture lands, a beautiful and serene pond, fertile soil, and a magnificent view. The farmer read the ad many times and then with a huge grin said, “I’ve always wanted a place like that.” He never sold the farm. How we view life, its situations, and its people can make a difference in how we respond to it. Do you view the world through a negative or positive lens? J. Sidlow Baxter writes, “What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity? It is our attitude toward it. Every opportunity has a difficulty, and every difficulty has an opportunity.” We have little control over what other people say or do, what catastrophes or illnesses might occur, but we can control how we respond to these realities. We can do so either positively or negatively. Artist and author H. E. Davey put it this way: A positive attitude is most easily arrived at through a deliberate and rational examination of what you must do to have steadfast positive thoughts. First, reflect on the actual, present condition of your mind. In other words, is the mind positive or not? For example, if we say, “It’s absolutely freezing today! I’ll probably catch a cold before the end of the day!” then our words expose a negative attitude. But if we state a simple fact such as “The temperature is very cold,” then our expression is less negative. Mindful awareness of our thoughts and responses makes it possible for us to recognize an attitude of negativity before we speak or act. The potential to be positive exists in every situation and interaction. An optimistic attitude ensures that our words and deeds will also be positive, inviting ourselves and others to view a situation differently and to feel hopeful. In her book It Is Well With My Soul: The Extraordinary Life of a 106-Year-Old Woman, Patricia Mulcahy writes, “I told Ella Mae Cheeks Johnson, then age 105, that she was the only person over eighty who I’d ever met who never referred to her physical infirmities or health problems. To which she replied, “I have my difficulties; I do not rejoice in them.” Living with a positive view allows us to see how life flows with both its challenges and joys and helps us to engage that flow with humour, wisdom, patience, and understanding. A positive attitude strengthens our capacity to handle the difficulties of life. It enriches our relationships, enables us to be grateful, encourages us to see beauty and wonder, eases our anxiety, and diminishes stress. All of this is very good for our spiritual and physical well-being. I invite you to approach life with a positive, life-affirming attitude. ● news&views AUTUMN 2019 | 31